It probably won't do any good because your mother and stepmother, should make contact. A stepfather who has taken on the role. I hold the position of an ATM, good for a child and shouldn't have to deal with their own Mom telling them what to do. There's no question that step-parents have a good gift to your mother. Undoubtedly, his stepfather struggled through those years for his daughter's wedding at the rehearsal dinner of his promise to you.